On my 16th birthday, a blond classmate was shocked to discover that I would not also, automatically, be allowed to date.
My parents also grew up in Taiwan at a time when people did not even hold hands (let alone kiss) until after they had started “going steady,” after which they soon became engaged and got married.
They were letting me date at a much younger age than they had. I can hear the Europeans in town laughing at our American prudishness.
I understood this, even if my 16-year-old self did not agree. We have a hard enough time dealing with Speedos at the YMCA.
As angry as I have been with Yale law professor Amy Chua, author of Battle Hymn of the Tiger Mother, for her incendiary article in the Wall Street Journal, “Why Chinese Mothers are Superior,” even as she backpedals from her hard-line stance, I am concerned that many cultural nuances are being misunderstood as everyone writes back — from Asian Americans to the happiness school to Bad Mommy — furious about even the less crazy things that she does, the details that really are cultural (as opposed to crazy). In Maureen Downey’s article in the Atlanta Journal-Constitution, “Chinese mothers: Perfect grades or else. ), it is more important to see how they fit into the larger cultural context or parental plan. Still, to be safe, I brainwash, er, tell my daughters how important education is, how distracting boys can be, and how they are not to date until they are 32 and have finished graduate school.
I feel like all Asians and Asian Americans are being castigated along with her, especially when people in cafÃ©s now glare at me when I scold my boy in Chinese. And you’re fat,” she responds to Chua’s claim that “Chinese mothers can say to their daughters, ‘Hey fatty — lose some weight.’” However, what she does not understand and Chua does not explain is that saying someone is “fat” (or “old” for that matter) is not as loaded in some Asian cultures/languages as it is in America. Every family is different and manifests its values and circumstances in different ways. Frances Kai-Hwa Wang has written an earlier article in response to Amy Chua’s article, "There are other ways of being a Chinese mother than Amy Chua's Tiger Mother." She was interviewed for "Mother, superior?
We can try to understand each other, even if we do not agree. It comes out of a past when it was good to be fat, chubby, plump or stout because it meant you had enough to eat. " and "Tiger Mom's Memoir Meets Ferocious Roar." Her take on “Asian American” parenting, which other than high expectations is pretty much the opposite of Amy Chua’s approach, can be found in, “APA Girl Power! Understanding model minority myth and other Asian stereotypes.
Imagine that you move to Europe where it is no big deal to allow children and teenagers to drink a glass of wine with dinner. Or would it take some time to get your mind about it? (Although this is changing.) Interestingly, my children and I use the Chinese word in the diminutive, “,” quite casually, but we would never ascribe the English word, “fat.” For comparison, the Asian equivalent stigma-loaded word would be “tan” or “dark.” I once physically winced when a friend complimented me, “You're getting some color! Raising Strong and Confident Asian Pacific American Daughters.” Frances Kai-Hwa Wang is also a popular speaker available to speak to parenting, teacher and community groups on “Multicultural Toolbox: Raising our children with culture(s), languages, and pride” and other parenting issues. Asian American literature and pop culture to see the range of experiences.
” It does not sound bad in English, but it cuts to the quick. Frances Kai-Hwa Wang is a second-generation Chinese American from California who now divides her time between Ann Arbor and the Big Island of Hawaii. Early development of skills (knowing that this is coming later on).
Someone like Snookie is completely incomprehensible. Rather than pontificate about the wrongness of the particulars from our experience, (Ahhh! She is an editor of Asian American Village, lead multicultural contributor for Ann and a contributor for New America Media's Ethnoblog. Strong development of Asian American identity and self-esteem.
She is on the Advisory Board of American Citizens for Justice. Brave and understanding parents willing to step out of their comfort zones and find other points of connection, other ways to reach out to other Asian American kids, to build community around their adopted Asian children.
She team-teaches "Asian Pacific American History and the Law" at University of Michigan and University of Michigan Dearborn. There is an excellent mentoring program in town I am sure you know about called GIFT that pairs Asian adoptees with college-aged Asian American "big sisters." I also give a talk called, "APA Girl Power!