Boy do guys get offended when I don’t go out with them because they have young children that are at the center of their lives! If it was a clean divorce/break up with no kids then she isn’t in the picture.
I mean I always say never say never, because anything’s possible. I don’t mean to offend or exclude anyone but I just can’t do it. Don’t forget the mothers, you also have to deal with her too. Now, you never know, I might be proven wrong one day and meet an amazing guy with kids who his life in order.
I’ve said before that partner priority relationships is where I’m at. Now I know it’s not always that black and white and some men really do have their shit together and can balance their lives, but that’s the exception to the rule. They are also more affectionate from what I’ve experienced. That’s when I decided that this probably isn’t for me. I don’t hate kids, I love kids, I just don’t want to deal that’s all. I do date men with kids over 18 though, they don’t really need their parents as much. I rarely go there so don’t ask and please don’t get offended.
When you have someone with kids, the kids come first (as they should) and I can’t compete with that priority. Why should I settle for less than I know I want and deserve. You need to work around the custody and children’s schedule. In my age range many men who are single have had children.
to do and the mistakes to avoid if you do decide to go down this path with a divorced guy, especially if they have kids.
DATING MISTAKE 1: I ignored the signs of his opinion on kids.
TIP 1: Make sure you are both aligned to what you want.
Even though he said he wanted kids, I could tell half way through our dating that things had changed, and I ignored the signs.
He already had two children already and even though in the first instance he said he wanted to have another with me, I knew that he had started to change his mind 3 months in as I could sense it and I ignored the signs as I didn't want to face the consequences of that outcome.Instead, confront your situation head on (if you want kids with a divorced guy) especially if he has children already.By putting more pressure on him, I pushed him away.To avoid adding pressure, make sure that you know that you are both on the same path.DATING MISTAKE 2: I got involved when he was still raging a war against his ex.TIP 2: Make sure that the divorced guy you are dating is over his ex and/or knows how to handle his emotions towards her.