According to About.com's Guide to Sexuality, BDSM stands for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission, sadim and masochism. ) For anyone looking to date with a BDSM slant, you probably already have a good idea as to what the term means and where you fit into the spectrum.
Although none listed here showed pornographic materials that I found, these sites may upset some readers.
Please click at your own risk, and only if you've reached the age of majority in your geographic location.
I may get blasted by Fet Life's owner, John Baku, for listing Fet Life as a "top" BDSM dating site.
Think of it as a Facebook for kinky folks, and you've got a pretty good idea as to how the underground yet well-populated site works.
However, it was never intended for folks to use as a dating site, and it shows by the inability to search folks beyond BDSM-related interests or location.
Baku has recently asked the membership however if folks would like a location-based feature, where you can see where other kinksters are in relation to your own location (like many SMS dating sites already do) so it may prove favorable for members wanting to find love, or at least a play partner nearby.
My best tip: find the groups in your geographic area that focus on dating/relationships, and then join them to stay apprised of folks like you wanting to meet up.
More » and Adult Friend Finder share the same database of members, so you'll see the same folks (for the most part) on each site.
The differences however, are considerable, when looking at BDSM relationships and merely adult, casual ones: ALT offers a huge number of questions to determine your specific kink, and each one is easily searched by its paying members.