One common reason to delay a first date is due to an attempt to learn more about the other person. I found the first few minutes of the first date are worth more than dozens of emails.
This reason is acceptable, especially considering the hassle that some women end up going through when dating online.
In general, my rule is an invitation to meet should come by the third email you send.
By this point you have talked back and forth twice and can measure how well you are getting along.
Actually meeting the person you are talking to is one of the most important steps to online dating.
That sounds amusing but many online daters dwell on internet communication overly long. They wanted me to get the show on the road and they were right to feel that way.
I made this mistake early on and now understand why a few girls, after several emails, would ask direct questions like “Is there anything else you would like me to answer? There are times where you will feel like you are communicating with a “great catch” only to realize what a mistake that was 60 seconds into the first date.It is important to meet early on so less time is spent talking to the wrong person and more time is spent trying to find the right one. The first date should be planned not long after communication has begun.It is personal preference on how long to wait but there are very few reasons to delay.After all, contacting someone is just a pre-cursor to the first date.It’s not as if you hoping to “chat” with someone and end it there.You want to talk with them and if things go well meet them.