Question: "Should a Christian use a Christian dating service to find a spouse?
Back then, families helped young women and men meet and become engaged and often chose their children’s mates for them.
Today, singles are more on their own to find a mate.
Some singles don’t bother to look for a spouse, believing God will bring the person to them, while others are forever on a feverish search for one, fearing they may miss him or her.
There should be a balance, as we remember that God is perfectly loving (Ephesians ; 1 John -18) and perfectly sovereign over every situation, desire and need (Psalm 1; Romans -39).
Unless we are rebelling against God, we can be sure that He is not punishing us through our singleness and that He is very likely bringing the right man or woman our way…eventually!
God uses our choices, other people, and sometimes even modern technology, to bring about marriages.
Before a Christian single considers any of the “newer” methods of finding a spouse like using a Christian dating service, it’s helpful to consider whether we may be engaging in any self-defeating behavior.
Is it possible we are being too picky, looking for the fairy-tale prince or princess, and by doing so, limiting the possibilities of what God may know is best for us and which we have not yet considered?
Are we not being picky enough, forgetting that God calls all Christians to marry only other Christians (2 Corinthians ), or are we considering someone who is stuck in a serious, life-altering sin that could endanger the marriage?
A Christian man should take the lead in relationships and making sure their relationship glorifies Christ in all things.
A Christian woman should let the man take the initiative as the leader God made him to be.