I think the best way to describe our sinful cravings is to connect it to the way we drive our cars. ” It is fairly normal in today’s world to have slept with many people before you are married. I stumbled across an Instagram bio this weekend with the words, “Forget it. You were and are and will be made in the image of your Father for now and forever. I want to start off by saying that because I am in no position to judge as my mindset on this topic was shifted only this morning. But it’s good when thoughts are altered because it usually means we are seeing a clearer picture of what Jesus wants for our lives.
We are uncovering our whole selves to another before we have committed to them.
We are abandoning the guarding of our hearts because we have this belief that because we love them, they are ours and because they love us, we are theirs. We would like to put our name on everything that doesn’t already have another’s name upon it but what is our right, while we are dating, to demand or expect someone’s exclusive time?
What is our right, while dating, to believe they are never to leave?
I have been listening to the podcast app lately, thanks for the recommendation Dad.
I have specifically been listening to RUF at Mississippi State, thanks for the recommendation Jacob Shaver.
This morning I was listening to “Relationships- Wisdom in Dating,” which discussed the lack of division in our minds between dating and marriage in today’s world.
I won’t be able to explain this perspective on dating as thoroughly or gracefully as was done in the podcast but I thought it was a good message, one that more people need to hear, especially young people, one that I felt needed to be written and passed along.
The speaker started off by stating that there are no rules on dating found in the bible. There is no verse telling us to wait three days to call after a date or how far into the relationship you have to be in order to meet the parents.
So in a sense, the whole world is just winging it when it comes to the stomachs of butterfly gardens and detailed analyses of others’ actions. Because we are sinners, we do not have to live in a constant fear of being perfect people.
Although the bible does not discuss dating, it discusses it’s more intense and committal sister, marriage. Jesus was already perfect in our place and when someone was perfect in our place, we are given the freedom to live in joy without a continual anxiety rested upon shoulders, an anxiety of the potential to screw it all up, to be seen as immoral, to be seen as less than.
God rejoices in marriage and the bible demonstrates that. It wasn’t celebrated in the bible but it was not condemned either. We are winging it and in the midst of that, I think we got carried away with dating and marriage and loving and all things relational. It is also in our DNA to rush and when these two combine, we reside in dangerous territory. I want to start off by saying that because no matter what you have done or how you have dated in the past, the love of God for you is not lessened. He sees you as beautiful and loves you enough to give up perfection just so you could know your Creator.