Everyone who’s been in at least one relationship thinks they’re enough of an expert to offer their thoughts, but much of this so-called “insight” is regurgitated by people who have no business offering advice in the first place.
In fact, some of the most popular bits of wisdom will achieve the opposite effect of what you’re going for.
Let’s explore the worst of what the Internet has to offer in terms of relationship guidance, so you can avoid being caught in these traps.
If you don’t know what those terms mean, consider yourself lucky.
The red pill approach to relationships takes its name from a scene in “Red pillers” preach that all romantic relationships are based on a power struggle, and the only way for men to win is by manipulating women through sexual strategy.
For red pillers, this is the bitter “truth” of dating reality.
A lot of misguided advice stems from this way of thinking, but the worst has to be the idea of negging, which is colloquially defined as “the technique of using a light insult wrapped in the package of a complement” in order to “gain and maintain the attention of women”.
Spend just a few minutes in red pill culture and you’ll immediately smell the stench of true misogyny.
To them, women are toys and if you can push their buttons in the right order at the right time, they’ll sleep with you. That’s enough proof to declare this tactic as absolutely terrible, isn’t it?On the one hand, people are constantly advising single men and women to “just be yourself” when seeking out a partner.If you think about it, it’s a superficial phrase that ultimately proves unhelpful.If “being yourself” was enough, wouldn’t you be in a relationship by now?Then again, swinging to the other side of the pendulum is not the way to go.“Fake it until you make it” is advised just as often, but it’s just as superficial.