First dates can be exciting and awesome, but they can also be nerve-wracking, awkward, and pretty flippin’ weird.If you’re anything like me, the conversation will invariably turn to boring work stories and how much you’re addicted to guacamole.
Consider popping a few of these questions on your next first date and see where they lead the conversation. What do they wish they could have done differently, if anything? You don’t have to rapid fire interrogate someone, of course, but it can lead to a conversation about their past that’s meaningful but still light. This isn’t meant to prompt a confession of your date’s failures. What about you, what do you wish you were better at?
If nothing else, you’re bound to get some interesting answers. Maybe it’s about being with their pet dog in the backyard or the smell of their grandmother’s house. The best way to approach it is as a light-hearted thing by offering an example of your own. ” Or, “True fact, I didn’t learn how to tie my shoes until I was in high school.” It’s a way of letting your guard down and laughing at yourself, a very attractive quality, and an invitation for your date to do the same.
Childhood memories are funny things: They reveal a lot about the way you think about the world, and the way you looked at it from a young age. As long as you’ve got a couple years to cushion you from it, it can be a time that’s rich with funny stories and little observations. What’s something you’ve been really proud of lately?
It’s a great way to learn a little bit more about their background and spark a discussion about the way you both grew up. You want to know where someone came from, but it can be a delicate subject. The way that someone saw themselves in high school when they were can say a lot about who they are. Maybe it’s hitting a time goal on a run or learning how to make pesto or finally getting the hang of something at work.
(Maybe their relationship with one of their parents or siblings isn’t great.) This is a nice way to leave it open-ended, and let your date chat about their family in terms that are as specific or as general as they want. It opens up room to hear about what they value without making your date feel like they’re bragging.
The worst part of dating is often at the very beginning.
First dates can be a big frustration for a lot of people.
Personally, I’ve never really liked first dates, especially if it was a blind date.
I feel a lot of pressure, and sometimes it’s just plain awkward.
First dates seem to fall somewhere between the excitement of a new possibility and the terror of a new possibility. Finding Perspective One of the things that has helped me redeem these early dates is a little perspective.
First dates are not the time to be thinking about the genetic advantages our future children might enjoy, but – let’s be honest – our minds can easily drift that direction.